TOW Opinion: Romance Novels

My take on romance novels is this: I know there are times that people fall in ❤ love ❤ in a very short period of time. So this is not to say that I do not believe in love at first sight or love happening in a couple of days. But I do not think it is a somewhat credible love story when two people just go through a few shared experiences and then at the end of it they say, “Oh you are the one that I want to be with for the rest of my life.”

I am the type that I know romance novels need for you to suspend belief because the sequence of events require everything to fall in place so that it happens exactly a certain way. Even with every fairy tale there is a chance that it could happen disregarding the magic part. No one has a fairy godmother. But they could have someone in their life that had has a lot of money and can make things happen as if it was magic, and that is almost the same thing.

Because I read various types of romances, some are more tame than others. In an effort to help you determine if a romance is for you, I decided that I need to have a guide-

Heat Index

  • Tame – So cool, almost cold 🔥 (love scenes are non-existent )
  • Getting warm under the collar 🔥 🔥 (love scenes are mentioned, but details glossed over)
  • Steamy 🔥 🔥 🔥  (love scenes are definitely happening, but described politely)
  • Smokin 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 (love scenes are frequent and descriptive)
  • Sizzlin from the heat!!! 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 (so much action is going on and its so descriptive, it is like a movie with the volume up)


There are certain behaviors that I feel have no place in romance novels.

Stalking is not appropriate for a romance novel. No means no. If the love interest does not want the other person, everyone should respect that decision. They should not force a relationship.

Use of force when one person is saying “No” is rape. Once again, no means no. It does not matter if it appears that “they really want it,” I cringe. Rape is a serious crime that should not be romanticized in any way.

Verbal abuse or emotional abuse is not appropriate for a romance novel. I don’t care how tortured of a person he or she is, that is no excuse to mistreat another individual.

I do not like love triangles, but more importantly I do not like it when one of the individuals in the romance is married. If one is in a relationship, they should not seek a physical relationship outside of their marriage out of respect for their vows. If the current relationship is an unhealthy one, they need to get out of it before starting with a potential love interest.

That is not to say I will not read the book, because a lot of times when some of these aspects are in a novel it is not apparent from the synopsis of the book. These are just some of the things that will negatively impact my review of the book.


6 thoughts on “TOW Opinion: Romance Novels

  1. Good, measured approach 🙂 I don’t think authors should be promoting unethical behavior. If someone is going to act like a disrespectful psycho at least make it clear that they are a disrespectful psycho lol.



    • Exactly! Your description “disrespectful psycho” made me chuckle. Can you imagine a “respectful psycho”? I guess that is one who is CRAZY but still says “please” and “thank you”. LOL 🙂


      • Haha, I guess I never though that sentence could be interpreted that way lol. Yeah, respectful psychos are not the most common kind are they!



  2. Thank you for putting your views on romance novels out there. I HATE it when novels glorify infidelity. Like you, I am happily married. We’ve been together for over twenty years, married for over seventeen. Not all of those years were easy or happy. We have weathered storms together (not the storm of infidelity, but the storms of life), and have come out more in love. Most of all, I have always loved my husband for he is a wonderful loving father and a devoted faithful husband.


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